While some talk about needing to shift their expectations and be more ‘realistic’ the reality comes more often that limiting beliefs and negative emotions from experiences, learning, and conversations with others, are what cause the loss of belief about love.
Love is real, and true love most certainly does exist, you just have to be in the right mindset to both perceive and experience it.
Everyone has their expectations and dreams, their vision of a perfect life partner, that one soulmate with whom they can enjoy a lifetime of harmony and love. Those dreams can hold up to reality, as much as some people believe to the contrary. When dreams have challenges coming into reality it is due to misalignment with values and beliefs. When values and beliefs are supportive, 100%, then dreams do come true.
What happens for most people is that their values shift out of alignment over time, as do their beliefs, due to their experiences and things they hear people saying. It’s their perception of reality which causes the shift in what is possible from the future. When that becomes healed and properly aligned, then their dream can become their reality, provided it is ethical, good for all, and realistic in terms of bounds of physical possibility.
Developing Healthy Self Love And Cleaning Up Your Belief Structure Is Essential
Is It Normal To Stop Believing In Love?
Normal, far from it. Common, relatively.
Loss of faith in ability to be loved, which has its roots in self love, along with negative experiences, are what cause people to choose to stop believing in love.
Realistic Expectations
Something which often causes challenges is other people saying that you need more realistic expectations. This usually comes from their own lack of faith in your ability to achieve the dream you have, sometimes they may be right, often they will be wrong.
What’s possible is different for everyone. Accepting other people’s limiting beliefs is a fast route to lack of success.
Acting On Dreams And Expectations To Reshape Your Results
Once you clean up the belief structures that surround your dreams, including in regard to love, and do things in support of those dreams coming to life, then they absolutely can come true.
Use of coaching and therapy can help rebuild your mindset such that you can attain the focus and belief needed for love to flow into your life in the way you desire it.
From there, utilizing the law of attraction, then getting yourself in the right dating pool, help carry you further along the path to finding your true love.
Is It Possible To Fall Back In Love Again?
Yes, you can fall back in love again. Whether that is with someone you fell out of love with, or someone new, is to a large extent up to you.
Provided you can forgive, and heal the hurt that you had, then love can come back.
Negative emotions, and the refusal to let go of them, often out of a desire for protection, regularly blocks people from experiencing the love they truly wish for. Essentially this creates a situation of toxicity within the mind, it closes of hope and creates a sense that pain and suffering are likely to come regardless of who is partnered with. Thus, belief in love slips away.
The moment those hurts are healed, hope and faith in the world can return, from there good prospects for a truly loving long lasting relationship can return.
How Do I Start Believing In Love Again?
Self care is a core element required for belief in love to return.
Talking with a therapist or getting a really good coach to help you move on from an old relationship, then clean up your mindset and prepare for a relationship, can be incredibly valuable.
Every person encounters challenges in life, everyone allows themselves to be shaped differently as a result of those challenges. Having input from another person who understands how mindset works, and can help you reshape yours in such a way that it will help you achieve your desired results, that can have you rapidly on the path to the relationship you desire.
Yes, you can learn meditation, build up an understanding of your own mind, learn various techniques for healing and letting go, yet what often blocks people from the greatest results is their refusal to confront and work through things which are either incredibly painful, or that they believe are OK. Usually working on these things is what yields the most catalytic changes to someone’s life.
Believing In Love Again In A Relationship
Faith in love can be shaken within relationships all too easily.
After lies, infidelity, abuse, toxicity, manipulation and other things, the rapport that creates the foundation of love can erode so far that a person can believe it is impossible to love their partner again.
When that is what they believe, then that will become their reality.
When they choose to let go, to forgive, to move forward and re-establish love, then it becomes completely possible to believe in love with that same partner and same relationship again.
What is generally wise after such situations, is establishing healthy boundaries, then ensuring that you both keep to them. It is one thing letting go, though if the same behavior keeps coming up, again and again, without change from the person doing it, then realistically sticking around is going to keep you in a toxic abusive relationship, which is never good.
While communication is good, many people can say things that they either only partially mean, or are untrue, in order to get a result they desire. Many people experience such behavior when in a relationship with a narcissist, be careful about this. Actions and behavior are far more important than words, what people do is far more impactful on harmony and love than pure words.
It is completely possible to love people after any wrongdoing, provided you can forgive them, and agreed behavior holds from that point forward.
You have got to both feel able to let go of what happened, then actually let go and forgive them, in order for love to return back into reality for that relationship.
Believing In Love Again After Breakup
Self care and processing time after any breakup is important.
When relationships breakdown, and couples split, then regardless of how much love their was at one point, or how much fun you had together at any particular point in time, that relationship was never meant to be any more than it was.
Wanting to drill into things with an ex, understanding why things fell apart, is relatively common. It also rarely does much good. Most people lack understanding on a conscious level about all the unconscious motivations which led them along a certain path and into a course of action. Pressuring them into giving answers usually only creates stress, ill feeling, and makes getting useful answers harder.
What is better is accepting that after any breakup, that relationship was good for a time, reflect on the learning it brought, then assess what you actually want in a relationship in the future.
Just because one person, whom you may have loved deeply, has fallen out of love with you, is zero reflection on your ability to find love and feel good in a relationship with someone who will truly love you for the rest of your life.
Again, as needed, getting coaching or therapy can truly help. Any good coach or therapist can help you navigate through the psychology of negative emotions and hurt, through into a mental space which opens up that ability to love and be loved again.
How Do I Trust How Do I Love Again?
Purely and simply, trusting and being able to love again, is a choice.
Trust and love are both related to psychology. They are things which are both mental and emotional in nature, as such meaning they are choices.
People often feel they lack choice when it comes to these things, yet in reality, as love and trust are based on values and belief structures, they do have complete control over over them.
You can choose to trust someone, you can also choose to love someone. Whether those people honor those choices is another matter, from which you may need to forgive and heal in order to move on.
Letting go and forgiving can be very easy. Based on events some people move on very quickly as they perceive enough reason for doing so. For them, hanging around, talking time sorting things out, communicating then developing understanding is unnecessary. They were sufficiently wronged such that other thoughts and feelings become obsolete.
For others, things are different and hurt goes deeper, greatly affecting their ability to move on.
Meditating, returning to a point of calm can bring benefit. Working through forgiveness techniques such as ho’oponopono can bring benefit without need for talking with others too.
When things seem so much of a struggle that letting go on your own is either too challenging or too painful, then getting professional help is incredibly wise. There are times when having someone who can help you navigate the tough areas of your mind filled with pain can shave years off time needed for healing. Moreover, that high quality coach or therapist can help you get on track for a present filled with love and happiness by helping you clean up your emotional state, your beliefs, and help you start to attract that love and happiness which will see pleasure and fulfillment fill your life.
Finding Where True Love Exists For You
Hope is never gone, even if you think you have completely closed the door on it.
In life, providing you can heal, you can bring new life and possibility back into being. This is ore than just an idea, or an ideal, it’s reality. New life always springs forth from where healing has occurred, it can be seen everywhere in nature and is part of the natural order of things.
It can require the need to be patient, though when you are honest with yourself, and work through the healing process effectively, there does come a point at which believing in love returns, and you find yourself wanting to find the right partner for marriage, or just the right life partner to enjoy a blissful coexistence with.
Cleaning Up Your Mindset Through Coaching Or Therapy
Experiencing the real joy of life means creating a break with pain and negativity.
Becoming grateful for the beauty in your life, for friends, family, and everything good around you as well as within you. This journey flows most easily when you are getting help to move beyond things like fear, doubt and other points of negativity. Hence why a good coach or therapist is incredibly valuable.
Challenge does hold the seeds of growth. From that which was never right you can learn much about what you really want, and how you wish life to be.
Having support to guide you through shifts in thinking, so you can honestly embrace the possibility of new perspective, can help inspire the change which enables that reconnection with love. Navigating the downs of life alone brings serious challenges, and often finding the route to happiness can be long if not impossible for some.
A good coach or therapist with walk with you on that journey, and help guide you to a place in life that you wish to be. Cleaning out limiting beliefs and negative emotions which hold you back from love and happiness.
Getting In The Right Dating Pool And Finding The Right Partner
Finding the right person for you to have a fulfilling healthy relationship with is about both your mindset and your dating pool. Once you have your mindset aligned with how you wish to be, and have re-established belief in love, getting yourself in the right dating pool is essential.
Results from the past were due to previous actions, so changing things up can be incredibly wise.
When you need help connecting with the right life partner to enjoy a relationship, and potentially marriage with, then seeking out professionally organized introductions can be hugely beneficial.
Talking with different matchmaking services, or finding a good marriage agency, will help you gain a sense of potential, discovering whether there are good prospects who believe in love and would seek a relationship with you.
Stephen Frost
Founder
Stephen Frost is the founder of Marriage Matching and uses his deep experience of coaching and mindset to help people achieve fulfilling, loving, and healthy relationships.