Matchmaking
For those with a busy professional life, matchmaking takes a huge amount of stress away from their search to find a good marriage partner. Having someone else search saving them time, allowing them to focus their time better, and enjoy the free time they do have dating good matches selected by their matchmaker for them.
Matchmakers have centuries of history, across almost every culture, to ensure that the best results possible come from relationships. At first, their focus was on creating alliances, bringing together different noble houses, to make both stronger.
In the last century the focus has moved from the families of individuals, to the happiness and fulfillment of the individuals themselves. Focusing love rather than anything else.
There are numerous approaches to matching around the world, Indian marriage matching which works mostly astrologically, Japanese Omiai where Nakodo, matchmakers, consider the personalities of those involved to match them.
Matchmaking The Simplified Route To Finding Your Ideal Partner
What Is Matchmaking?
Traditional matchmaking is about strengthening bloodlines and creating alliances between families.
Modern matchmaking focuses on bringing people together based on how their personalities will synergize. Essentially minimizing potential for friction in relationships, and ensuring through understanding each individual, that they will create a fulfilling relationship together, which sees both people become stronger and happier through unity.
What Are Matchmaking Services?
Matchmaking services are provided by professional matchmakers in order to match their clients with the best possible partner.
Matching is very intensive when done properly, taking many hours of searching, and assessing how different clients will interact with each other within a relationship. Much coming from insight derived during consultations, where matchmakers gain opportunity to see how a person behaves, check language and how it’s used, plus check how they view themselves and others in order to build up a personality profile.
One set of skills that is very useful for professional matchmakers and matchmaking companies where client assessment and matching is involved, is neuro linguistic programming (NLP). When matchmakers have certified in using neuro linguistic programming effectively, they can dive deeper within a person’s mind, understanding their personality in ways most cannot. Which brings great benefit when assessing how people will interact together.
Worldwide Use Of Matchmaking
Matchmaking is used by people in various forms in most countries around the world, Japan, India and Greece being three of the countries where it’s most widely used, yet even their approaches vary. The U.S., U.K., Australia, and most other western nations use matchmaking less, though those in more senior business roles where time is short, and they’re seeking someone appropriate to bring into their lifestyle, do use matchmaking in higher numbers. Locations including Chicago, New York, Los Angeles and London being more common areas for these activities due to business levels there.
Matchmakers And Omiai The Modernized Culture To Arrange Marriages In Japan
The Omiai tradition in Japan with a history that dates back hundreds of years, and still accounts for 5.2% of marriages in Japan each year. The emphasis has shifted over time, focusing on love and mutual interests, rather than age and sense of family status which were vital when Miai traditional matchmaking began.
The Nakodo, Japanese for matchmaker, performs the search for suitable matches, then arranges an Omiai, which is effectively an introduction or first date, to see what level of interest the pair have in each other. Provided they get along well they continue to date and get to know each other, otherwise they part never to meet again.
In Japanese society it is very challenging to meet new people, which is a culture shock for most foreigners who visit. Cultural issues are why matching is so prevalent in Japan.
Greek Dating Sites And Matching Services
Historically, Greek singles were often brought together via matchmaking practices, this waned a small amount in the last two decades, though previously it was common with many Greek couples formed from the various eligible Greeks involved.
Most eligible Greeks search for love in other ways now, including online dating using Greek dating sites following changes with Greek culture, with little desire to have people arrange marriages for them. Other Greek singles do opt for matching help, though mostly those in niche groups looking for someone specific.
For many Greek singles, the biggest test for a potential match is meeting the friends. If they make new friends with the best friends of their date, the relationship will likely move forward. If the friends reject them, it’s likely over. That’s generally the way of life in Greece.
Indian Matchmaking And Its Prevalence For Marriages
Historically, Greek singles were often brought together via matchmaking practices, this waned a small amount in the last two decades, though previously it was common with many Greek couples formed from the various eligible Greeks involved.
Most eligible Greeks search for love in other ways now, including online dating using Greek dating sites following changes with Greek culture, with little desire to have people arrange marriages for them. Other Greek singles do opt for matching help, though mostly those in niche groups looking for someone specific.
For many Greek singles, the biggest test for a potential match is meeting the friends. If they make new friends with the best friends of their date, the relationship will likely move forward. If the friends reject them, it’s likely over. That’s generally the way of life in Greece.
What Does A Matchmaker Do?
As mentioned previously, the matchmaker works using personality modelling for prospective partners. Hence taking so much time to understand people they work with in-depth.
Psychological profiles are core to the process for successful matchmaking services. Many top performing matchmakers are secretive about their matching process, understandable as it helps them retain a competitive edge. An element of secrecy around the matching process also helps matchmakers avoid situations where people emphasis certain aspects of their personality over others, distorting perceptions of them. The process needs to remain untainted by distortions, in order for couples to be matched effectively.
When people show their true self, it’s relatively easy for skilled matchmakers to bring couples together for a happy and harmonious life together.
Matchmaking Services Vs. Online Dating Sites
Matchmaking is used around the world to bring suitable couples together. In contrast with dating apps, or dating sites, there are far more successful singles that find good partners and get married through matchmaking than through numerous other approaches.
Dating apps and sites have low success rates with fewer than 10% finding partners, whereas many matchmaking services have a far higher success rate with over 50% resulting in a wedding and happy marriage. Partly because the dating pool matching agencies work with is far more refined and focused.
What To Expect From A Dating Site
Dating sites vary greatly in terms of how they allow users to interact. Most allow very limited levels of online dating with their free option, if they have one.
Usually, people using a dating site have to pay increasing fees for greater levels of interaction with potential partners, with many also having additional charges for expanded profiles and the option for more profile photos.
During an initial consultation one client Marriage Matching has worked with, mentioned a certain Eastern European dating site he had been a member of. He paid €700 for the contact details of a lady so he could talk with her directly, based on the premise that she was also interested in a relationship with him. Sadly he ended up receiving one text a week, at best, with various excuses about being her busy and being unable to talk.
Dating sites have notoriously had issues with fake profiles, and people who are paid to interact with users in order to keep them interested. Thus incentivize them to use the dating site more, and pay for additional services as well. Behavior which borders on fraud, and is at the very least theft.
As a result, most people seriously looking for love refrain from using online dating sites now.
What To Expect From A Dating App
Most people only ever use a dating app which is totally free, which in turn yields results in line with what people put in. Many of the people who sign up to a totally free dating site are far from serious about relationships, and so finding an amazing partner becomes a real rarity.
Others join dating apps that are free initially, though as with various dating sites, have spiraling fees for increased levels of contact and better profiles.
Challenges for many using a dating app to find a date in the pursuit of love is finding someone single and well adjusted. Many discover on their first date, or after a few dates, that their date is married or otherwise attached to someone else, or that there are serious behavioral issues which make being with them an exceptional challenge. Often their choice of screen name can be an indicator of trouble, though not always.
Use of a dating app, as with a dating site, to find love comes with serious challenges attached.
What To Expect From Matchmaking Services
Matchmaking services in the main work with people who are verified as single, and have been met by the matchmakers involved.
When it comes to using elite matchmakers or a Japanese marriage agency, people are checked very carefully before they are permitted membership. Potential members who exhibit behavioral issues, are disrespectful, aggressive, and fail to listen, among other things, are usually barred from registration. Matchmaking services are usually very discerning about their membership, partly because of their reputation, mainly because they seek only those who can form healthy, harmonious relationships.
For Japanese marriage agency matchmaking service usage, potential members have to prove they are not married, and thus legally single before membership is permitted. They also have to prove various statements about themselves, financial stability, and various other things, so the agency concerned can build an accurate picture of who they really are.
Once contracts are signed they’re permitted membership and access. Searching then commences to identify that right person in their country or overseas depending on the preferences held, age, interests and free time activities, desire for children, etc.
Good agencies supply a listed of suggested matches, from which members select each match they wish to have an introduction, or first date, with. Their matchmaker giving them advice on how to come across best and develop a favorable impression during introductions, or Omiai as they are known in Japan. Dualling as dating experts and dating coaches when helping members.
After successful introductions contact details are exchanged, a second date is set, and they can date and communicate freely, with support available from the dating experts and their matchmaker.
One issue for many considering use of this type of service are the fees, generally they are much higher than other options. Partly to discourage those interested in casual dating, though mainly because of how much work is done by the professionals doing the matching.
Matchmaking Services And Marriage Agencies
While all men and women joining marriage agencies are seeking marriage, not all men and women joining matchmaking agencies are.
The difference coming when a marriage agency also provides a service where they search for matches for members who are too busy to find a bride or groom for themselves.
Finding A Marriage Partner With Marriage Matching
With Marriage Matching, members can opt for a full matching service or can search for themselves. The full matching service does require a lot of time, energy and skill on the part of the matchmaker involved. With plenty of support available from dating experts to ensure that dates go well, and relationships blossom into a wedding and happy marriage.
Those interested are invited to contact us for a consultation to discuss what they are seeking from a bride or groom.